A Better Child A Better World
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David Dutch
Following 25+ years in Personal Development work and direct sales David has encapsulated his highly acclaimed and easy to follow technique for goal achievement into a book 'The First Step' for information please go to http://inthefootstepsofgiants.com where you will also find many articles to help you achieve all you want in life. By David Dutch
Published on 11/4/2007
Helping parents understand the need for establishing discipline during the formative years of a child's life
Helping parents understand the need for establishing discipline during the formative years of a child's lifeA Better Child A Better World
What is the hardest job on the planet that most adult people actually volunteer to carry out?
Raising children (Parenting).
Most people have an idealised vision of how they want their children to turn out, forget the halo and angel wings unless the role of parent is addressed BEFORE a child is born no matter how you dress little Mary or Johnny it is you, the parent, that is totally responsible for the actions and reactions of your children.
No one will deny it is a difficult role to fulfil but every child has potentially six adults to help form its character and personality, two immediate parents and four grandparents, and unless they are all adopting the same criteria when working, yes working, with the child, the child will get mixed messages leading to confusion and a misunderstanding of what and where the parameters are.
Discipline, discipline, disciple, there is nothing more important in the early formative years. We must teach our child responsibility for any task or chore, such as picking up toys after they have stopped playing with them. The greater the success you have in these early formative years the greater the chance that your child will follow the rules throughout toddler, school and teenage years.
Picking up toys is perhaps the first great chore for a young child, yet if you are firm in that, they cannot play with any other toy until they put away the previous one you are laying the foundation of a quality life for your child.
The saying, 'you are spoiling your child', just does not mean giving them rewards when they are not justified but think about the words 'SPOILING' do you really want to 'SPOIL' your child so that it is effected as it grows into adult hood and then inflicts its own children with 'spoiling techniques'.
Have you ever wondered why children grow up lacking confidence? Research has shown that a child that is subject to phrases such as; "Shut up", "No"; "A child should be seen and not heard"; "you cannot do that"; "You are getting above your station", later in life when faced with an unfamiliar situation draw on previous experiences of similar or imagined situations and recalls those phrases and believes they cannot accomplish anything in life.
No one will ever say that parenting is easy, but it should be approached with a very adult view point. Accepting the responsibility of the role is a major factor in how your child will turn out. The child you have, that you love beyond your wildest love, is totally influenced in its future life by how you set out discipline in its formative years.
Parenting, a very difficult role to take on but unfortunately a role that the majority of people take on without much thought. It is not just about the financial consequences of having children, you and you alone are responsible for the future of this planet. They may sound very strong words but if you think about it for a moment you are the result of the actions your parents took, and they were the result of their parents, so it is true to say that your children will develop because of what you do and say and their children will still be influenced by your actions today.
It is true that the child will be subject to influences from teachers, college and university lectures and their own peer group as they move through life, but YOU, the parent, form their core values, the very values that determine their thoughts about the world.
In an ideal world, all influencing factors would work in harmony but unfortunately, they do not. However, it is extremely important that the major roles of parent, grandparent, teacher, and lecturer should support one another and work in harmony. One cannot transfer responsibility to another but should develop conversations that ensure that they are all working together for the good of the child. That way we will develop a better world.
Raising children (Parenting).
Most people have an idealised vision of how they want their children to turn out, forget the halo and angel wings unless the role of parent is addressed BEFORE a child is born no matter how you dress little Mary or Johnny it is you, the parent, that is totally responsible for the actions and reactions of your children.
No one will deny it is a difficult role to fulfil but every child has potentially six adults to help form its character and personality, two immediate parents and four grandparents, and unless they are all adopting the same criteria when working, yes working, with the child, the child will get mixed messages leading to confusion and a misunderstanding of what and where the parameters are.
Discipline, discipline, disciple, there is nothing more important in the early formative years. We must teach our child responsibility for any task or chore, such as picking up toys after they have stopped playing with them. The greater the success you have in these early formative years the greater the chance that your child will follow the rules throughout toddler, school and teenage years.
Picking up toys is perhaps the first great chore for a young child, yet if you are firm in that, they cannot play with any other toy until they put away the previous one you are laying the foundation of a quality life for your child.
The saying, 'you are spoiling your child', just does not mean giving them rewards when they are not justified but think about the words 'SPOILING' do you really want to 'SPOIL' your child so that it is effected as it grows into adult hood and then inflicts its own children with 'spoiling techniques'.
Have you ever wondered why children grow up lacking confidence? Research has shown that a child that is subject to phrases such as; "Shut up", "No"; "A child should be seen and not heard"; "you cannot do that"; "You are getting above your station", later in life when faced with an unfamiliar situation draw on previous experiences of similar or imagined situations and recalls those phrases and believes they cannot accomplish anything in life.
No one will ever say that parenting is easy, but it should be approached with a very adult view point. Accepting the responsibility of the role is a major factor in how your child will turn out. The child you have, that you love beyond your wildest love, is totally influenced in its future life by how you set out discipline in its formative years.
Parenting, a very difficult role to take on but unfortunately a role that the majority of people take on without much thought. It is not just about the financial consequences of having children, you and you alone are responsible for the future of this planet. They may sound very strong words but if you think about it for a moment you are the result of the actions your parents took, and they were the result of their parents, so it is true to say that your children will develop because of what you do and say and their children will still be influenced by your actions today.
It is true that the child will be subject to influences from teachers, college and university lectures and their own peer group as they move through life, but YOU, the parent, form their core values, the very values that determine their thoughts about the world.
In an ideal world, all influencing factors would work in harmony but unfortunately, they do not. However, it is extremely important that the major roles of parent, grandparent, teacher, and lecturer should support one another and work in harmony. One cannot transfer responsibility to another but should develop conversations that ensure that they are all working together for the good of the child. That way we will develop a better world.