A young girl is usually
filled with so many dreams. She dreams of a grown-up life, what her
Prince Charming will be and she looks forward to walking down the
aisle towards the man she will share forever with. She dreams of her
own house and her own kids. She thinks of how many children she
wants to have and what they will look like. Does she want boys or
girls? She thinks of baby names and more. All these amusing and
delightful things can keep on running inside the pretty mind of a
girl. But never she will think of her becoming a birth mother.
A birth mother gives up
her baby for adoption. Now, isn’t this too painful? More often
than not, in the subject of adoption, the birth mother is usually
forgotten. People are too caught up with the feelings of the
adoptive parents to care how the birth mother feels. Worst,
generally, a birth mother is judged as being irresponsible for giving
up her baby.
Serious reasons unknown
to the public or even to adoptive parents and the adopted child could
motivated a birth mother to painfully give up her baby for adoption.
Typically, very young ladies mostly opted for adoption especially as
the result of unwanted pregnancies. Young girls who get themselves
pregnant and still in school eithe
r chose abortion or adoption. This
also proves true to unmarried women who got pregnant and could not
face the shame and ridicules of the society. Furthermore, poverty is
one main reason for a birth mother to disown the precious bundle she
carried on for nine months, in the hope of providing a better life
for her son or daughter.
However, sometimes fate
has a funny way of catching up on you. Like birth mothers giving up
their baby thinking it was the best for their little one, only to
turn out as a big mistake. It is more agonizing to realize that
giving up your baby is a complete mistake and that getting him or her
back is far from being possible. For some, it works out fine. But
there are birth mothers out there, living in distraught just because
of one decision.
Adoption does not only
deals with birth mothers or birth parents or adoptive parents. Most
important part is on the adopted child. How do you think a child
will feel when he or she finds out that the parents he or she grows
up with are not the real ones? These adoptive parents are not even
related to him or her. Despite the raging popularity of adoption, no
one and nothing can erase the unspoken bond between a child and his
or her birth mother. For no matter where the child will end up with
or in what age he or she is, when he or she learns that he or she is
adopted, always the adopted child will find a way back towards his or
her birth mother.
