Soak the red beans in the evening and dry them with a scarf tomorrow morning; cut your nails at night and you will be possessed by the badrakali; take a bath before you enter the kitchen; ask for blessings before you sleep and after you wake up; never look up at guests, especially in the eye; don't roast bhajjis with a cupful of ghee, buy the sari only when the blouse is over your waist; always munch your food as if you are hiding a secret; you must glide like a swan whenever you walk; wake up at dawn to decorate the entrance with kolam; did you remember to do it today?; never sit down to eat until all the men have started eating; don't let the evil lizard fall on your head or else it will bring all the other evil spirits into our house; never let the dupatta of your sari touch the floor; don't lick your fingers when you're done eating, even if the food is good; but i did remember to decorate the entrance with the kolam today; this is how you greet the guests; this is how you obey your elders; this is how you fold your brother's pants so it stacks up neatly; this is how you sit on a chair; this is how you speak to acquaintances; this is how you please people; this is how you don't let your inner thoughts show on your face; this is how you listen to your mother's mind; this is how you put your feelings behind your face so you can take advantage of hidden opportunities; this is how you stay away from potential fights; this is how you act like a lady; this is how you become a blossoming flower; this is how you set the dishes for dinner; this is how you must speak when only spoken to; make sure you thank our god krishna everyday; don't speak back to anyone, even when you are sure you're right; don't sit and play carom with the little children; you will always have work to do; don't toss flowers into the lake; be mindful of your reputation; don't sit around for gossip when you have work to do; don't sit down in a man's presence; don't take off the duppatta from around your hair unless you are alone with your brother or future husband; you must not see your husband before your marriage.