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DATING: HAS ITS OWN RISK
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By Cresenciano Sastre
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DATING: HAS ITS OWN RISK
In the old-fashioned era, dating is not common. In rural areas, women were given full respect by their boyfriend. Even before they have relationship, seldom they go together. If the boy want to see her, he should come to her house in the presence of her parents. Their conversation will not last longer if already dark for the coming evening. The father fully lighted the place where they talked and waited until they end their conversation. This is the only time parents sleep. In this drama you will see that the father was overprotective to his daughter because they know the risk if given the full freedom to choose. She was vulnerable because of her age mostly using her heart and not his mind.
When the boy desired to ask the hands of their daughter, the parents will put condition to the boy before he can win their heart. He must show to her parents that he is sincere in his intention and willing to sacrifice if necessary. One way to measure his honestly is to let him do a housekeeping chore, anything, even tending carabao and pitching water several meters away the house. This is being done to assure that when parents give their blessing for their daughter to marry they won't regret. If the boy is very sincere to his feeling because he loved her, then that's the time her parents asked the boy to tell his parents to see them.
There is no kissing before marriage or even a premarital relationship. When the girl is brought to the church in her wedding day, wearing a white dress as a sign of her purity for his would-be husband. After the wedding the feast began welcoming all the people in the barrio, slaughtering pigs, goat, or even carabao to feed all the people who came to their house. The tuba wine is unlimited. They continued feasting until the evening. Then the drama ends. This is the picture of the old-fashioned style of courtship and marriage to a girl those days. Respect is the key word before you can get married.
But in the modern world is very different. Dating is allowed. When the girl have a
date, the next thing is kissing. After that, something goes wrong. They dated elsewhere without the knowledge of their parents. They lied to them just to have time to meet each other. They have all the liberty they wanted without their parents intervention. They do these because according to them they fall in love deeply. I just don't know if its true.
When her parents knew their daughters escapade, its now too late. Their daughter they loved most became pregnant to a boy who doesn't want to marry her. This is the scene of today.
Premarital relationship became one of the problem of parents to their younger daughter. Too much independence will surely arrive to become a headache to the parents. Women can easily believe what men are saying about their relationship. Men always do something to lure women into submitting with the pretext that he will marry her. The women also who did not use her mind agreed what her boyfriend wanted without thinking what will become of her. At the end of the rope there is always a result either good or bad. But mostly, the result is always bad. This is the moment most parents feared.
Women did not listen to parents warning that doing a thing before marriage was very wrong. Why it was very common today? Due to western influence that a good moral principle is already obsolete in the modern world. The respect that present in the old era lost completely in the modern world. And that's the difference. The temptation to try to experience the first moment because boyfriend wanted it indicate that women in their younger age became the captive of their feelings. They cannot distinguish what is right and wrong. She always choose the wrong side.
Our moral standard of today is decaying. The modern world brought this catastrophe to the very lives of our women. The good moral principle seldom you can find. The word respect no longer there. Although we need a modern techology in our lives but it does not men that morale principle is to be included in modernization because the end-result is severe for the parents to handle and the consequence is great to be a young mother without a would-be husband.
When the boy desired to ask the hands of their daughter, the parents will put condition to the boy before he can win their heart. He must show to her parents that he is sincere in his intention and willing to sacrifice if necessary. One way to measure his honestly is to let him do a housekeeping chore, anything, even tending carabao and pitching water several meters away the house. This is being done to assure that when parents give their blessing for their daughter to marry they won't regret. If the boy is very sincere to his feeling because he loved her, then that's the time her parents asked the boy to tell his parents to see them.
There is no kissing before marriage or even a premarital relationship. When the girl is brought to the church in her wedding day, wearing a white dress as a sign of her purity for his would-be husband. After the wedding the feast began welcoming all the people in the barrio, slaughtering pigs, goat, or even carabao to feed all the people who came to their house. The tuba wine is unlimited. They continued feasting until the evening. Then the drama ends. This is the picture of the old-fashioned style of courtship and marriage to a girl those days. Respect is the key word before you can get married.
But in the modern world is very different. Dating is allowed. When the girl have a
When her parents knew their daughters escapade, its now too late. Their daughter they loved most became pregnant to a boy who doesn't want to marry her. This is the scene of today.
Premarital relationship became one of the problem of parents to their younger daughter. Too much independence will surely arrive to become a headache to the parents. Women can easily believe what men are saying about their relationship. Men always do something to lure women into submitting with the pretext that he will marry her. The women also who did not use her mind agreed what her boyfriend wanted without thinking what will become of her. At the end of the rope there is always a result either good or bad. But mostly, the result is always bad. This is the moment most parents feared.
Women did not listen to parents warning that doing a thing before marriage was very wrong. Why it was very common today? Due to western influence that a good moral principle is already obsolete in the modern world. The respect that present in the old era lost completely in the modern world. And that's the difference. The temptation to try to experience the first moment because boyfriend wanted it indicate that women in their younger age became the captive of their feelings. They cannot distinguish what is right and wrong. She always choose the wrong side.
Our moral standard of today is decaying. The modern world brought this catastrophe to the very lives of our women. The good moral principle seldom you can find. The word respect no longer there. Although we need a modern techology in our lives but it does not men that morale principle is to be included in modernization because the end-result is severe for the parents to handle and the consequence is great to be a young mother without a would-be husband.
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