To all the parents who live their childhood dreams through their children. What good does it do to push your kids to play a sport they do not really want to play? The real question is what do you get from seeing your child play and fail. There are several parents pushing children to try to excel at a sport they really to do not like because their parent was good at, sure mom or dad influence them to try and that is ok, what happends when they fail?

There are too many what if's and we need to let our children make their own destiny whether it is sports, band or chess club, after all its about what the kids want not what the parent didn't do in school or couldn't. This is one of the main reason our children revolt, mommy and daddy telling them to try harder, its ok do better next time. Are you kidding me.

In our day and age, success is judged base on our desire to make accomplishments. I our childrens own time they will succeed at anything they put their mind to, let them be. If little jonny or little gabby want to play ball for fun with no seriousness to it, stop pushing them to be great. Our children will be great at what they want to give an effort to be great.

In my closing statement, I have to refer to my co-workers child. She is 11 yers old and spends every waking moment studying and training to be the best softball player she can be, not because her parents push her, they really couldn't care. They did the right thing, pick a subject, sport whatever and we will back you 100%, but if you start you can't quit. Her school grades are a/b grades and she is one of a few top pitchers in her area, not because of her parents pushing, but because she has been given the choice. A lesson given and learned.

Our children have minds too and they know exactly what they want to do, lets let them make that choice.