THE FATHER SON DUO
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Tajamul
By Tajamul
Published on 04/1/2009
the father son relation is founded on the ambiguity in the context of respect and fear. this is why father and on due hardly reveal themselves
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It is not many days before the boy gets to understand that he does not have any problem in handling mama. However when papa is around, he feels forced, threatened, and intruded upon. He is of the opinion that papa doesn't care for his feelings/preferences and does not even acknowledge his ideas, dreams and needs. To top it of he makes decisions for him without bothering about his opinion & won't even ask what his son believes is the best for him. His perception of his privacy being invaded/ denied naturally leads to the feeling of being betrayed and controlled.
Despite mama's insistence on her son to hold his father in high regard there is a palpable feeling that papa is the eyesore. The son grows chummy with the mom but stands in awe of his father. While the son does not stand the sight of his papa, the latter however keeps on being misled that he is the master of the house. While the poor papa keeps himself busy demanding his son to doff his cap to him he however does not have an inkling that the rug is since pulled from under his feet. This is why when the father-son duo sit together for hours, each keeps oneself to oneself, saving breath and wasting no words. Neither of them opens his mouth. Despite closely related the duo is miles apart in treatment towards each other. Even when the son is supposed to hold his father in great respect, the feeling does not however bring them an inch closer. The iron curtain raised in between the two, does not allow the relationship to build up between the two. As neither of them is ready to have truck with each other, more often than not the two are with their hackles up. As the fear and the negative feelings drift the two further apart, the two intimately related individuals tend to be as wide asunder as pole and pole.
In our day to day life this is how we deal with the preaching of our respective religious books, prophets and the sacred books. We no doubt pay all the respect to them on earth, but when it comes to practicing their tenets we feel apprehensive and scary of the miseries that we may (in the short run) be put to if we follow these teachings.
Despite mama's insistence on her son to hold his father in high regard there is a palpable feeling that papa is the eyesore. The son grows chummy with the mom but stands in awe of his father. While the son does not stand the sight of his papa, the latter however keeps on being misled that he is the master of the house. While the poor papa keeps himself busy demanding his son to doff his cap to him he however does not have an inkling that the rug is since pulled from under his feet. This is why when the father-son duo sit together for hours, each keeps oneself to oneself, saving breath and wasting no words. Neither of them opens his mouth. Despite closely related the duo is miles apart in treatment towards each other. Even when the son is supposed to hold his father in great respect, the feeling does not however bring them an inch closer. The iron curtain raised in between the two, does not allow the relationship to build up between the two. As neither of them is ready to have truck with each other, more often than not the two are with their hackles up. As the fear and the negative feelings drift the two further apart, the two intimately related individuals tend to be as wide asunder as pole and pole.
In our day to day life this is how we deal with the preaching of our respective religious books, prophets and the sacred books. We no doubt pay all the respect to them on earth, but when it comes to practicing their tenets we feel apprehensive and scary of the miseries that we may (in the short run) be put to if we follow these teachings.
THE FATHER SON DUO - Page 2 of 2
It is not many days before the boy gets to understand that he does not have any problem in handling mama. However when papa is around, he feels forced, threatened, and intruded upon. He is of the opinion that papa doesn't care for his feelings/preferences and does not even acknowledge his ideas, dreams and needs. To top it of he makes decisions for him without bothering about his opinion & won't even ask what his son believes is the best for him. His perception of his privacy being invaded/ denied naturally leads to the feeling of being betrayed and controlled.
Despite mama's insistence on her son to hold his father in high regard there is a palpable feeling that papa is the eyesore. The son grows chummy with the mom but stands in awe of his father. While the son does not stand the sight of his papa, the latter however keeps on being misled that he is the master of the house. While the poor papa keeps himself busy demanding his son to doff his cap to him he however does not have an inkling that the rug is since pulled from under his feet. This is why when the father-son duo sit together for hours, each keeps oneself to oneself, saving breath and wasting no words. Neither of them opens his mouth. Despite closely related the duo is miles apart in treatment towards each other. Even when the son is supposed to hold his father in great respect, the feeling does not however bring them an inch closer. The iron curtain raised in between the two, does not allow the relationship to build up between the two. As neither of them is ready to have truck with each other, more often than not the two are with their hackles up. As the fear and the negative feelings drift the two further apart, the two intimately related individuals tend to be as wide asunder as pole and pole.
In our day to day life this is how we deal with the preaching of our respective religious books, prophets and the sacred books. We no doubt pay all the respect to them on earth, but when it comes to practicing their tenets we feel apprehensive and scary of the miseries that we may (in the short run) be put to if we follow these teachings.
Despite mama's insistence on her son to hold his father in high regard there is a palpable feeling that papa is the eyesore. The son grows chummy with the mom but stands in awe of his father. While the son does not stand the sight of his papa, the latter however keeps on being misled that he is the master of the house. While the poor papa keeps himself busy demanding his son to doff his cap to him he however does not have an inkling that the rug is since pulled from under his feet. This is why when the father-son duo sit together for hours, each keeps oneself to oneself, saving breath and wasting no words. Neither of them opens his mouth. Despite closely related the duo is miles apart in treatment towards each other. Even when the son is supposed to hold his father in great respect, the feeling does not however bring them an inch closer. The iron curtain raised in between the two, does not allow the relationship to build up between the two. As neither of them is ready to have truck with each other, more often than not the two are with their hackles up. As the fear and the negative feelings drift the two further apart, the two intimately related individuals tend to be as wide asunder as pole and pole.
In our day to day life this is how we deal with the preaching of our respective religious books, prophets and the sacred books. We no doubt pay all the respect to them on earth, but when it comes to practicing their tenets we feel apprehensive and scary of the miseries that we may (in the short run) be put to if we follow these teachings.