Your Child's Early Behaviour
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Uthra Sriram
By Uthra Sriram
Published on 03/6/2009
Ensuring that your child gets proper attention in the first few months of its life will make a huge difference in its behavior, giving no room for tantrums.
Your Child's Early Behaviour
I have a son who is 21 now; when he was a toddler people who came to our house used to tell me that it was very rare to see a child so well-behaved and sweet mannered. Once his 1st grade teacher called me for a meeting and asked me how I had managed to make my 5 year old understand that drinking cold beverages was bad for him( he had turned down a cold Pepsi at a school picnic, saying it will lead to him suffering an asthma attack). She was very impressed with myson's behavior in class, too.
A colleague of my husband's came to our house once and told me he had come to specifically meet my son who was 6 at the time; he said he was surprised to learn that the boy was only 6years old, because of the way he had spoken while answering the phone when this colleague had called to talk to my husband.
I would attibute credit for this behavior to Dr. Bertrand Russell; my husband presented me a copy of his book On Education and I diligently followed his suggestions. I would strongly recommend that every expecting or newparent read this book, though Dr. Russell has written one book for every year of a child's life from birth to adoloscence.
Some of the key rules of earlygood parenting are:
A colleague of my husband's came to our house once and told me he had come to specifically meet my son who was 6 at the time; he said he was surprised to learn that the boy was only 6years old, because of the way he had spoken while answering the phone when this colleague had called to talk to my husband.
I would attibute credit for this behavior to Dr. Bertrand Russell; my husband presented me a copy of his book On Education and I diligently followed his suggestions. I would strongly recommend that every expecting or newparent read this book, though Dr. Russell has written one book for every year of a child's life from birth to adoloscence.
Some of the key rules of earlygood parenting are:
- Check on the baby frequently, before the baby cries to get your attention; this will stop the habit of crying and getting what it wants/needs at the bud;changing the diaper when its wet, after the baby cries in discomfort, or feeding the baby after it cries in hunger, etc give rise to the understanding that if it cries it will get what it wants.
- Never lie to the baby; if it asks unanswerable questions, explain the matter honestly as much as posible and then tell him he will better understand the problem in a few years; babies have good instints and know when they are lied to.
- Never make false promises; if you do not keep your word, you are going to lose their respact in your word. Suppose they ask for an expensive toy/game, do not promise to get it for Christmas or their Birthday if you are not absolutely sure; let them know you will try your best and if not now, maybe later. They will be better children for it.
- Do not led a misdeed go unpunished; they know they are crossing the line and they will just push to see how far they can push you. So, if you set some lines that are crossed, do not hesitate to punish them accordingly.
- Let them know frequently how important they are to you and that they come first; this will make them feel secure in your love, even when it is tough love.